One of the very first things I do with a new coaching client is check for motivation. This is one of the best things I can do for you as a coach. If you’re ready and motivated to make progress on your goals, we can accomplish a lot together. If you’re not ready or not that motivated, you’re going to find it really hard to get anything accomplished and we’ll both be frustrated.
Motivation leads to intentionality. When you get to that place where you know you can’t stay the same and live well, that place where you just can’t stand those beliefs about yourself anymore, that is where you have the most possibility. That is where your motivation moves you to make decisions to change, where your intentions become actions, where those actions begin to shape who you will become.
Life-giving rhythms must be intentional. It’s great if every once in awhile you just happen to fall into an activity that energizes you and makes you come alive. What if you did that on purpose, and often? How would it change you?
Intentionality means committing to a goal. It means throwing yourself in with everything you’ve got, not wrecklessly, but carefully crafting your steps in the direction you want to go. It’s knowing that sometimes you might be only falling forward, still tripping on old beliefs or actions while trying to create new rhythms.
“Intentionality, however, is not perfection.”
– Lauren Winner, Mudhouse Sabbath
Once you’re motivated and committed to creating life-giving rhythms, you must also make sure that those rhythms are integrated into a whole life. Growing up, especially going to school, it’s easy to believe that life is compartmentalized, segmented into different classes or parts of the day. Life is scheduled for you – classes, hobbies, homework, family and friends all fall into their own neat little cubbies.
When I graduated and started my “adult” life (I’m still not sure when you really become an adult), I started to see all those pretty little lines blur together. Life became about friends who were like family, a job that could become a career, sleep that affected how I worked, and money that affected how I was able to live in the city that I loved. It was all integrated. I was no longer segmented, and I wanted to live my life in a way that made all the parts work together.
Integration means that you can’t take your work home with you every night and expect to have a healthy social life or family life. It means that when you give yourself time each week to do what feeds you, that makes you a healthier and more functional person who has more to contribute, not just at home but also at work and in the community.
How does practicing your life-giving rhythms make you better equipped, energized, or healthier? How do you see those changes affecting your relationships, mental and emotional health, and your work?
What do you need to do to be more intentional in practicing your rhythms or to integrate them into your a life that works?