I didn't get enough sleep last night.
I'm not strong enough to make it through the work out.
I'm not qualified enough to be hired for that job.
I'm not pretty enough to find love.
At the end of my day, I question whether I'm enough.
When cultivating rhythms of gratefulness (acts or rituals that create space for grateful attitudes) we have to talk about the concept of enough.
Enough is a word I have to mindful of throughout my day. In my thoughts, my dreams, my conversations and my meetings, "enough" is a highly used word in my vocabulary. More times than I'd like to admit, I use this common word to convey scarcity instead of contentment.
I have to dig deep for the courage to be honest about my "enough"s.
Brené Brown writes about the concept of scarcity in her book, Daring Greatly. Scarcity, this idea of not having enough to go around, speaks to us through everything from a vacation photo on Facebook to the classifieds section of your local newspaper.
Brown writes: "Scarcity is our culture's version of post-traumatic stress. It happens when we've been through too much, and rather than coming together to heal (which requires vulnerability), we're angry and scared and at each other's throats."
So what's the cure? Make more money? Get thinner and fitter? Go back to school to validate your intelligence?
No, Brené says, more is not the answer.
"Addressing scarcity doesn't mean searching for abundance, but rather choosing a mind-set of sufficiency. Sufficiency isn't an amount at all. It is an experience, a context we generate, a declaration, a knowing that there is enough, and that we are enough."
This week, as you practice life giving rhythms, think about the concept of enough.
I believe that those who know sufficiency share some common traits (which I'm still trying to live up to):
- They have a purpose that is bigger than they are. When you are here for a purpose, a mission, for something that matters, you look at the world in a more connected way. When we are connected (check out my post on Ubuntu), we live more like a family, sharing what we have and knowing that there is enough to go around.
- They have an internal measurement for fulfillment. If I'm constantly comparing what I have to what my friend on Facebook has, of course I'm going to believe that I'm lacking. When what I have is just right for me, not for anyone else, I will feel fulfilled. Use your own internal compass, in the context of community, to develop a sense of gratefulness for who you uniquely are and what you uniquely have.
- They find joy in experiences and connections instead of ownership. Those who see the world for every bit of beauty and hope and life that is in it will naturally feel and be more grateful. They know that even if they don't have what they might want, there is still so much good available to them.
How are you declaring sufficiency this week, that there is enough and you are enough?
Don't forget to post photos of your Grateful Rhythms on Instagram or Facebook, using #GratefulRhythms. Let's fill these spaces, along with our hearts, with gratefulness.